Friday Nasiha: ~ Concept Of Friendship In Islam ~


Bismillaahir Rahmaanir Raheem


Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barkatuh!
Concept Of Friendship In Islam

Humans are social creatures by nature;
they’re always in need of friends and companions.
Most of our lives depend on interaction with others.
Strong individuals are the core of a strong community,
something that Muslims should always strive for.

We all know that Allah the Most High
has brought us to life in order to test us.
Thus we are here for a relatively short period of time
and that we shall meet Allah one Day,
so we need to use our present life
for what is best for us in the hereafter.

Once we know our purpose and our goal in life,
we should seek ways to achieve them
so as to benefit our own selves.

In an authentic Hadith,
Prophet Mohammad (Sall’Allahu alaihi wasallam) said:

“A person is likely to follow
the faith of his friend,
so look whom you befriend.”

Prophet Mohammad (Sall’Allahu alaihi wasallam)
who has the most noble character
and dealings with fellow humans gave us
a very clear and simple message and advice
in regard to friendship.

How should we choose our friends?

We should choose the friend that believes
and abide by our religion (Islam)
and gives great respect to what Allah
and Prophet Mohammad (Sall’Allahu alaihi wasallam)
has ordered us.

And we should stay away from that
who is not well mannered
and gives no attention to what Islam is about
or what pleases or displeases Allah,
for he’ll surely affect us negatively.

There is no good in the companion
drowns us in sins and displeasing Allah.

The bases for the actions of those
who follow the evil ways are corrupt;
their actions are built upon misguidance and deviation.
Their deeds are worthless to them

as Allah (Subhanuhu wa Ta`ala) says:

“And We will proceed to
what they have done of deeds,
so We shall render them
to scattered floating dust.”
Qur’an (25:23)

Their actions, even if we see them
as righteous and noble are of no value to them,
so how can they be useful to us?

Good friends are those
who share their companions
both happiness and sadness.

If we share our feelings with
the wrong-doers whose actions are
worthless and based on corruption,
then we are following the same ways
and standards as they are, and we’ll end up
being as corrupted as they are,
and then we’re in a big trouble,
how can we face Allah’s dissatisfaction
and displeasure?!

Instead of making friends
with the misguided ones
we should befriend the righteous,
yet treat the rest
in a gracious and just manner.

Staying at sufficient distance is necessary;
yet treating everybody in a noble
and kind manner is required.

In another Hadith,
Prophet Mohammad (Sall’Allahu alaihi wasallam) said:

“The example of a good companion
and a bad companion is like that of
the seller of musk, and the one
who blows the blacksmith’s bellows.
So as for the seller of musk then
either he will grant you some,
or you buy some from him,
or at least you enjoy
a pleasant smell from him.

As for the one who blows
the blacksmith’s bellows then
either he will burn your clothes
or you will get
an offensive smell from him.”

When choosing our friends
we should ask ourselves first:

Are they going to help us
achieve the purpose
for which we were brought to life?
or will they take us away from it?

Will they desire for us Allah’s pleasure
or is that completely irrelevant to them
and not their concern at all?

Are they leading us to Paradise
or to the Hell?

Allah (Subhanuhu wa Ta`ala) says in Noble Qur’an:

“O you who believe!
Take care of your own selves.
If you follow the right guidance
and enjoin what is right
and forbid what is wrong
no hurt can come to you
from those who are in error.
The return of you all is to Allah,
then He will inform you about (all)
that which you used to do.”

(The Noble Qur’an- 5:105)

Alahumma infa`ni bima `allamtani
wa `allamni ma yanfa`uni!

OH ALLAH! Make useful for me what You taught me
and teach me knowledge that will be useful to me!


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