” The True Muslim is An ideal Husband”
This is An Excerpt Taken From The Book:
” The Ideal Muslim “
By Dr. Muhammad‘Ali Al-Hashimi.
The Muslim And His Wife,
One Of The Most Successful Husbands
Hence The Smart Muslim Husband is One Of The Most Successful Husbands Ever,
And The Most Beloved To A Faithful,
Pure, Righteous Wife,
Because Of His Adherence To The Guidance Of Islam.
He Has A Deep And Compassionate Understanding Of Her Nature And Psychology,
And He Directs Her Towards The Straight Path Of Islam,
Which is in Complete Harmony With The True Nature Of Mankind.
He Recognizes Her inclinations,
Desires And Moods,
And Tries To Reconcile Between Them And The ideal Life And Behavior He Wants For Her,
While Never Forgetting For An instant That She Has Been Created From A Bent Rib,
And Straightening A Bent Rib is impossible.
He Understands His Wife And Respects Her Feelings
The True Muslim Always Understands His Wife And Respects Her Feelings.
He Does Not Criticize Her Family Or Any Of Her Relations in Front Of Her, Out Of Respect For Her Feelings.
In Return, She Respects His Feelings And Does Not Do Or Say Anything That May Adversely Affect Any Member Of His Family.
He Does Not Disclose Any Secret That She Has Entrusted To Him Or Spread Any Story That She Has Told Him in Confidence,
For Carelessness in Such Matters All Too Often Explodes into Conflict Between The Spouses And Extinguishes The Love Between Them.
The Sincere Muslim Husband is Protected From All Of That, So Long As He Continues To Follow The Guidance Of Islam.
He Helps Her To Make Up For Her Failings And Weaknesses
The Sincere Muslim Husband Tries To Make Up For What His Wife Lacks,
if He Feels That She is Lacking in Knowledge Or Manners.
He Does This in The Gentlest, Kindest And Most Positive Manner.
If He Encounters Defiance Or Willful Deviance On Her Part,
He Brings Her Back To The Straight And Narrow in A Gentle, Humane And intelligent Manner,
Avoiding Harsh Criticism Or Rebuking Her in Front Of People No Matter What The Reason.
The Most Hurtful Thing For A Woman is That Someone Should Hear Her Being Reprimanded Or Witness Her Being Scolded.
The True Muslim is The Most Sensitive And Respectful Towards The Feelings Of Others.
He Knows How To Strike A Balance Between Pleasing His Wife And Treating His Mother With Due Kindness And Respect
The Sincere Muslim Husband Draws Upon His intelligence, Compassion And Strength Of Character in His Dealings With Both His Wife And His Mother,
in Such A Way That He Does Not Offend Either fO Them.
So He Cannot Be Disobedient Towards His Mother Or Oppressive Towards His Wife.
Rather, He Recognizes His Mother’s Rights And Treats Her in The Best Possible Way,
While Also Recognizing His Wife’s Rights.
He Does Not Detract From His Wife’s Rights in The Course Of Fulfilling His Duty Towards His Mother And Taking Care Of Her.
The Truly Sincere Muslim is Able To Do This,
As Long As He is Truly Conscious Of Allah (S.W.T.) (i.e., Has Taqwa.)
And Follows The Guidance And Teachings Of Islam,
Which Treat Both Mother And Wife With Fairness And Give Each Her Due Status.
He Fully Understands His Role As A Protector And Maintainer (qawwam) Of His Wife.
With Such Good Attitudes And Gentle Treatment,
The Muslim Husband Wins The Heart Of His Wife,
So She Does Not Disobey Him in Anything.
Therefore The Muslim Man Has Been Given The Position Of Qawwam Over Women,
Because Of The Characteristics Which Islam instills in Him,
The Qualifications it Has Given Him And The Conditions And Limits it Has imposed On Him:
” Men Are The Protectors And Maintainers [qawwamun] Of Women,
Because Of Allah Has Given The One More [strength] Then The Other,
And Because They Support Them From Their Means…
” (Qur’an 4:34)
This Position Of Qawwam Brings With it Some inconveniences,
For it Gives Men Responsibilities.
The Man is Completely Responsible For His Wife:
“ Each Of You is A Shepherd,
And Each Of You is Responsible For Those Under His Care.
A Ruler is A Shepherd;
A Man is The Shepherd Of His Family;
A Woman is The Shepherd Of Her Husband’s House And Children.
For Each Of You is A Shepherd And Each Of You is Responsible For Those Under His Care.”
(Bukhari and Muslim)
This Responsibility Applies To Every individual in An Islamic Society,
in Which Everyone Is Responsible in One Way Or Another,
Because According To Islam,
Life is A Serious Matter,
Not Something To Be Taken Lightly.
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