In the name of Allah, the Most-Merciful, the All-Compassionate
“May the Peace and Blessings of Allah be Upon You”
Praise be to Allaah, we seek His help and His forgiveness. We seek refuge with Allaah from the evil of our own souls and from our bad deeds. Whomsoever Allaah guides will never be led astray, and whomsoever Allaah leaves astray, no one can guide. I bear witness that there is no god but Allaah, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.
Bismillah Walhamdulillah Was Salaatu Was Salaam ‘ala Rasulillah
As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuhu
Listen to the speaker without interrupting him until he finishes talking.
In his speech during the Farewell Pilgrimage, Allahs Messenger peace and pleassings of Allah be upon him, said which meaning of is translated as: “Ask people to keep quiet.” (Bukhari & Muslim).
Talk clearly so that the listener may understand you. Ayshah, the Prophets wife, said: “The Prophets words were so clear-cut that everyone could understand them.” (Abu Dawood).
Cheer up and speak pleasantly. This is in accordance with the Prophets (pbuh) saying which meaning of is translated as: “Do not underestimate any kind of acts, even to receive your brother cheerfully.” (Muslim), and his other Hadith: “A good word is an act of kindness.” (Bukhari & Muslim).
Condolence has been prescribed to console the dead person’s family, relieve their sorrows and alleviate their distress. Allah’s Messenger (pbuh), said which meaning of is translated as: “A believer who condoles with his brother on a bereavement will be dressed by Allah in the robes of honor and glory on the Day of Resurrection.”.
Mention the name of Allah “Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem” and lie on your right side in accordance with the Prophets (pbuh), words to Al-Baraa bin Azeb which meaning of is translated as: “If you want to go to bed, perform ablution as that for prayer, then lie down on your right side, and say: O Allah! I submit myself to You, and turn my face towards You, and confide my cause unto You, and take refuge in You, out of love and fear of You. There is no refuge or escape from You except in You. I believe in Your Book, which You have revealed and Your Prophet, whom You have sent as Messenger.” (Bukhari & Muslim).
Do not sleep on your belly, as this was prohibited by the Prophet (pbuh), said which meaning is translated as: “Such manner of lying down is disliked by Allah.” (Abu Dawood).
Make sure there is nothing that hurts you at your bed, as recommended by the gracious Prophet (pbuh), which meaning of is translated as: “When one of you goes to bed, he should clear his bed as he does not know what is lying inside after he has left it, and let him say. Allahumma bika wadatu janbi, wabika arfauh. Allahumma in amsakta nafsi faghfir laha, wa in arsaltaha fahfazha bima tahfazu bihi ibadakas-Salihan. O Allah! With Your name I have laid on my side, and with Your name I raise it. O Allah! If You hold my soul (i.e. take my life), then have mercy on it, and if You return it, then protect it with what You protect Your pious servants).” (Bukhari & Muslim).
The Etiquettes of Sleeping
It is desirable, before cohabitation with ones wife or husband to mention the name of Allah. “When one of you cohabits with his wife, if he says, In the name of , O Allah! Keep us away from Satan, and keep Satan away from (the offspring) that you may grant us, and then if a child is born out of this union, Satan will have no access to hurt his child.” (Bukhari and Muslim).
Private relations between husband and wife must be kept secret, as stated in the following Hadith of the Prophet (pbuh), which meaning of is translated as: “The worst in position of all people in the estimation of Allah on the Day of Resurrection will be the man who cohabits with his wife or the woman who cohabits with her husband, then either of them divulges the secret of his mate.” (Muslim).
Allahs Messenger (pbuh), recommended love-play, flirtation and kissing prior to sexual intercourse as evidenced by his words to one of his companions which meaning of is translated as: “Dont make love with her unless she has had the same degree of sexual appetite as you so that you do not discharge before her. He asked: How should I do this? The Prophet said: Yes, you kiss, caress and touch her until you find that she has the same degree of urge and excitement as he, then make love with her.” (Imam Ahmad).
Return trusts to their owners, settle grievances and debts, and leave for your family sufficient provisions. Never travel alone except in cases of emergency when you find no company. The Holy Prophet (pbuh), said which the meaning of is translated as: “One passenger is one devil, two passengers are two devils, but three passengers make a caravan.” (Abu Dawood, Nasa’i and Tirmidhi).
On travelling, choose good company and select one of you as your leader. The Holy Prophet (pbuh), said which the meaning of is translated as: “When three people set out on a journey they should appoint one of them as a leader.” (Abu Dawood).
You should inform your family of the time of your arrival back to them. Do not return home at night as this is undesirable so that he should not see anything that he dislikes. The Prophet (pbuh), said which meaning of is translated as: “If one of you is absent from home for a long time, he should not come back to his family by night without informing.”
He should say goodbye to his family, friends and companions, as the Holy Prophet (pbuh), said which meaning of is translated as: “If one of you intends to set out on a journey, let him say goodbye to his brothers, for Allah Almighty will make in their prayers a blessing for him.”
He should return home quickly after he achieve the objective of his journey. The Holy Prophet (pbuh), said which meaning of is translated as: “Travel is a piece of anguish as it deprives each traveler (of you) of the facilities of eating, drinking and sleeping. Therefore, when one of you has completed the purpose of your journey he should return home quickly.” (Bukhari and Muslim).